The Pleasure and Power of the Pause

A guided worksheet to practice consent, emotional safety, & pleasure without pressure

Because sex is often portrayed in media as spontaneous and easily/equally accessible and desired, we rarely talk about the power of slowing down to check-in, regroup, and intentionally create space.

But the truth is, pausing during intimacy isn’t a failure. It’s a skill.

Whether you're someone who struggles to speak up mid-encounter or a partner who wants to create space for more authentic, consent-driven pleasurable experiences, learning how to pause and communicate can transform your sex life.

The Pleasure and Power of the Pause is a guided worksheet designed to help you and your partner(s) build comfort with stopping, checking in, and choosing intimacy moment by moment.

You can take my word for it or hopefully try it yourself — sex that is guided by pleasure and connection, and without pressure, that’s ::chef’s kiss::

Keep reading for reflection prompts, communication exercises, and tools for making your bedroom (or any room) a safer and sexier place.